M – (the) more efficient you get, the more you become a “limited reservoir for other people’s expectations”

– management expert Jim Benson as quoted by Oliver Burkeman in Four Thousand Weeks. 

The problem with being efficient is that people come to rely on you for it, therefore getting in the way of getting your own priorities done. The perk of being efficient? People like you. Maybe not you as a person, but you as a resource, as a tool. And when you are a first-born, overly responsible daughter, efficiency is, well, the most efficient way to earn love, right?